If you have been on Facebook for some time then you definitely must have come across that funny image depicting a humongously large book about understanding women, written by a man. The comments that follow this image are more hilarious than the image itself, with the men claiming that they would give anything in return to have a copy and the women confidently asserting that such a book can never exist because men cannot understand women.
If you ponder over it then there is actually a lot of truth to the matter. You probably would be a millionaire by your mid-forties if you would get a penny each time you secretly wished to crack the code to a woman’s mind, right?
Women and Sex
What makes the joke even funnier is that men usually never bother to know what goes on in a woman’s mind unless they are trying to have sex with them. Well the fact of the matter is that the Lord Almighty has created men and women quite differently. It is not just about the physical differences (that are already evident) but there are a lot of differences when it comes to the emotions and psyche as well.
If you are still wondering how this fact relates to your sex life, then you need to know that a woman’s sexual response is not only different from men but also largely dependent upon her emotions as well. According to a study conducted by the famous sexologists Masters and Johnson, human sexual response has various stages and the first is the sexual arousal phase followed by a plateau of consistent stimulation, following by the orgasm phase. The final stage is the phase of resolution. Years later another sexologist named Kaplan claimed that there was one more phase at the beginning which is desire to have sex.
Does This Hold True for Women As Well?
Not exactly, and that is why a woman’s sexual response is still a puzzle to men. To top it, each woman could be different from her other counterparts and that leaves men guessing what works and what does not when it comes to getting women sexually satisfied.
But don’t worry, there is still some good news. You still can satisfy your lady if you be nice to her. Men usually can have sex with anyone if they feel sexually aroused by that person because the sexual act is more of a physical act for them. But women being more complex creations, can enjoy sex with a man only if there is an emotional bond or connection with him.
But this trait of hers actually has a benefit for men because it also implies that even if a woman has no desire or arousal to begin with, she could still be willing to play the game along with her man if the emotional connection is good enough.
So the good news is that even if she is not experiencing any desire, you still can look forward to a wonderful sexual experience together if you know how to push her right buttons during foreplay.
Do Not Restrict Foreplay to the Bedroom
Foreplay typically suggests the sensual acts that precede the actual act and is commonly engaged in few minutes before the act. But when it comes to women, it is always better to stop restricting foreplay to the walls of your bedroom. Remember that her emotions could be manipulated to your advantage if you are shrewd enough.
Make her feel loved for and cared for by developing an emotional connection with her. And obviously these acts have to be done long before your actual sex act and beyond your bedroom walls. Make a habit of providing her meaningful company throughout the day. Even if you cannot be with her physically, send her some loving texts or maybe call her often and finally when you get to be with her; talk to her and most importantly listen to her when she speaks.
Finally when you are in bed with her, pay attention to making the act enjoyable for her by engaging in foreplay in a patient and sensuous manner. Encourage her to be honest and frank about her preferences and act accordingly.
I would like to conclude this post by reminding you that orgasm is not the benchmark of sexual satisfaction for women. There are many of them who have never experienced an orgasm in their entire sex lives and some experience it infrequently but still are sexually satisfied.