Desire is the first stage of the female response cycle. A sexy thought enters a woman’s brain often triggered by touch, and the brain then transmits signals to her genitals. Once stimulation begins and excitement builds, the woman starts to become aroused. Numerous changes take place in the body as it prepares for orgasm.
Arousal in women usually begins with the initial physical stimulation. Once a woman starts to get turned on, her breasts swell slightly and her nipples harden and, like her male partner, her muscles tense, her heart rate and blood pressure increase, and her breathing rate speeds up.
Prior to arousal, the clitoris, labia, and vagina are pink in colour and in a relaxed state.
In preparation for intercourse, many changes occur in the genitals: the vagina becomes lubricated in order to enable the penis to enter smoothly, then lengthens and swells with blood. The labia to three times their original thickness and move away from vaginal opening as the sexual excitement build.
When stimulated, the clitoris becomes enlarged and pulls back against the public bone. The clitoris may be difficult to see owing to the swelling of the surrounding tissues. The vagina and labia change in coloration fro pink to a deep red or darker, purplish shade.
Once tension and sensual feeling have built up sufficiently, orgasm is triggered.
During high state of arousal, the vagina expands and tissues in the outer third of the vagina swells to form the orgasmic platform, which grips the penis during intercourse. The uterus rises and the clitoris retracts under its hood.
During orgasm, the cervix, uterus, and outer third of the vagina contracts regularly. There are usually three to five intensely pleasurable contractions at about 0.8 second intervals, although this varies.
Women differ from men in that instead of subsiding rapidly back into normal state, some women continue to remain sexually aroused and can be stimulated again to experience further orgasm. Eventually though, the body relaxes and returns to its former resting state – the blood flow drains from the genitals, the heart rate and blood pressure subside, and breathing returns to normal.
Orgasm Techniques for Women
A woman’s climax depends primarily on the amount of stimulation her clitoris receives – her clitoris being the main organ of sensation.
Intercourse alone isn’t usually the best way for a woman to enjoy orgasm because the clitoris doesn’t get enough stimulation from the penis. Of the women who do manage to climax during intercourse, because of in-out movement of the penis exerts mild downward pull of the clitoral hood, which is attached to the labia on the sensitive clitoris. For some women this stimulation is enough. But, for most, it is not. Indeed, some women never experience orgasm from intercourse alone.
The majority of women want and enjoy intercourse but need that something extra to make it finally culminate in a climax. The most straight forward way is to give your lover a lot of stimulation by hand so that she is extremely aroused by the time you get to intercourse. This stimulation can be done either by him or her and is extremely effective.
The Joy of Vibrators
There are some men and women for whom the combination of masturbation and intercourse either feels uncomfortable or still does not offer enough stimulation. This is where vibrators come to the rescue. Vibrators are not just for novelty value; for some women they are essential, and can make the difference between experiencing orgasm and never doing so. Vibrators today have travelled a long way from a pink plastic, penis-shaped model. You can purchase them in bright jelly colours, in a variety of shapes and sizes, and with a number of special and very pleasing attributes.
Multiple Orgasms for Women
Not all women experience multiple orgasms, but a lot more can manage it than their male counterparts. Multiple climaxes can be experienced in various ways, but they tend to consist of a series of separate orgasms occurring within a short time, sometimes with only a few seconds between, occasionally longer. Some women experience them as a series of gentle peaks of excitement that feels connected, while others have one strong climax after another.
How to Experience Multiple Orgasms
To experience multiple orgasms a woman must always have continued stimulation after her initial climax – it is vital to maintain a high degree of arousal. Her partner needs either to continue intercourse, or to press on with manual stimulation, instead of stopping because he thinks her climax is over. If you are experimenting on yourself on yourself, instead of removing your fingers from your clitoris because it feels so sensitive after orgasm, carry on with the stimulation. You could also use a vibrator after the first climax.
Controlling Orgasm for Women
Timing tends to be crucial element of good sex, because it is frequently the key to whether or not both partners experience orgasm. With the right element of control, a couple can prolong the sexual experience and can vary the type of orgasm they wish to experience.
Since most men cannot continue intercourse after ejaculation, and because most women tend to need more stimulation than their man, the best way to experience simultaneous orgasm is to excite your woman first until she reaches a point of arousal that appears to match your own. Let go of your own climax only when she is clearly almost at the point of climax too.
One of the sex differences between men and women is that if you stop stimulating a man, he remains sexually excited. If you stop stimulating a woman, her arousal fades so rapidly that it takes quite a while to bring her back to the same peal of excitement. So if you are one of those women who climaxes too soon, try stopping the stimulation for a short time stimulating your man for a while. It should slow down without materially affecting your partner.