Let’s face it: Most of us want better love making techniques because most of us are concerned about our prowess in the sack. Men want to be terrific lovers. We want the women in our beds to think we’re awesome. But many of us don’t know how to get from where we are now—hopefully so-so??—to where we want to be—best lover ever???—so we need some help.
Love making techniques that really get women going are not the types of things men think they are. A lot of men think that good love making techniques are going to involve acrobatics and intense physical feats. But what women really crave can be summed in four little letters: T-I-M-E.
The more time you spend before the act itself, the better a lover she’s going to feel you are. It sounds crazy, right? To be considered a better lover, you need to spend more time before the actual love making? Yes. Exactly. Here’s why: women consider all of that stuff part of the love making itself. While men are more like microwaves: push a button and it’s on, women are more like crockpots: slow to heat up, simmer for hours before the meal is ready.
When women are asked about their sexual preferences, frustrations, and satisfaction with their sex lives, one theme pops up recurrently: foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. The key to really great love making is in the details before insertion.
Love Making Techniques Sure to Please
Good rule of thumb: If it has skin on it, it can be massaged. Men tend to ignore all sorts of erogenous zones on women. Their backs are highly sensitive. Massaging her back, legs, and arms will relax her and warm her up—literally and figuratively.
Sure, you know about licking the clitoris, but did you realize that licking pretty much any part of her body will earn you points? That’s right. Taste her back, thighs, hips, ankles, anywhere you choose.
Oils and lotions
Combine massage with some oil or lotion. Maybe you can catch her right out of the shower or bath, lead her into the bedroom and rub scented oil into her still wet skin.
There can never be enough kissing. A lot of women who are deeply in love with their partners still lodge this same complaint: not enough kissing. Many couples who have been together a long time do not kiss with tongue anymore. Yet this kind of kissing is often what opens the doors for a woman to begin relaxing fully and being more ready and open for an orgasm.
Don’t underestimate her biggest sex organ: the brain. Suggestion is sensual. Talk about where you want to touch and what you want to do. It’s like having sex with her brain. And the brain gets really turned on when you’re talking about touching one body part while you are actually touching another. It’s like teasing. So if you can stay hands off her obvious erotic zones—the vagina and breasts—but talk about them while touching her leg, hip, ankle, back, etc., you just got the brain fully engaged and primed.
These love making techniques will put your sexual practice over the top. The more time you spend focused on her body before you actually have sex, the better the experience it will be for her. Don’t believe me? Check out any woman’s magazine and notice the discussion about sex. Or check out some hot celebrity couples. Jada Pinkett told a reporter she wished she could bottle her husband and give it to her friends because “Will makes love to your entire body!” Trust me, the woman in your life read that and sighed.